Monday, August 31, 2015

To Not Recount Trifling Incidents

Trifling incidents should be thought of as petals that have fallen from a bouquet -
sweep them away and enjoy the beauty of the remaining blooms.

A woman who adopts a policy of not rehashing trifling occurrences, such as small disappointments and petty annoyances, will always bring a refreshing air to social conversations.  She will be sought out by friends for her pleasant, good-humored, and uplifting nature.  People will find that they always seem to feel better for having been in her company.

Rehearsing the disagreeable, irritating details of daily life is selfish and tiresome.  Seldom useful, it usually creates a downward spiral in conversation and sucks energy from our spirits.

On rare occasions when such occurrences are mentioned, they should be recounted in a light-hearted, good-natured way that reflects an optimism that, though things sometimes go awry, a lady can laugh at her mishaps without getting her pinfeathers too ruffled.

"Let your speech be always with grace..."
Colossians 4:6

Principle:  A lady does not speak of trifling incidents.


  1. Oh I need work in this area...often I recount trifling incidents because I'm grasping at what to say in a conversation.

  2. Hi Nancy, I love your new blog! This post is such a great point. I know someone (close to me) who does what you describe ALL THE TIME to the point that I used to think it was normal. Now I know it's not and I really watch myself not to do it. There's no point! Why rehash old disappointments or annoyances, when you can focus on nice things instead. And if others bring up something I don't dwell but move the conversation onto another more pleasant subject.

    1. Thank you, Fiona. You are so right; there is nothing inspiring about rehearsing petty nuisances! Thank you so much for sharing.