Wednesday, September 30, 2015

To Speak Impeccably: Becoming Comfortable With Silent Pauses

"Well-timed silence hath more eloquence than speech."
Martin Farquhar Tupper

Many women find themselves uncomfortable with moments of silence in conversation.  We fear not knowing what to say and feel the need to fill empty space with something, anything.  As a result, we say things that are either mindless or better left unsaid.

A lady wisely understands that observing brief moments of silence has enormous benefits in conversation.  Silent pauses serve as moments of refreshment, when both parties are given the space to take in what has been said; to consider how they might next contribute something worthwhile to the conversation; to be sensitive to the other's needs; as well as to be mindful of the shared time and completely present in it.  None of these are likely to happen if one is worried about filling every little nook and cranny with chatter.

The more we practice small spaces of thoughtful silence, the more at ease we will become with them.  When tempted to say something just for the sake of avoiding silence, take a deep breath, look into your friend's eyes and simply smile.  It may be the most eloquent thing you contribute to the conversation.

Principle:  A lady is comfortable with silent pauses in conversation.

Art: Afternoon Tea, Edward Cucuel


  1. Is there a way to receive your posts via email?

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  2. thank you! I really enjoy your posts.

  3. What a wonderful principle!
    Nancy, it's been a while since you posted the last secret. I hope everything is OK?