Wednesday, January 6, 2016

To Stand Like a Lady

Jacqueline Kennedy at the Taj Mahal, India, 1962.

Popular culture is showing young women how to stand for photographs, resulting in a dearth of ladylike stance.  Virtual photos are replete with young women posing with one knee flexed and one hand on a flaunting hip.  Gentility laments for what is being lost. 

A lady stands with self-possesion, grace, and dignity.  To stand like a lady, imagine a vertical line of five points from head to toe: ears, shoulders, elbows, knees and feet.  
  • Ears should be held directly over the shoulders. This ensures a lovely, straight neck.
  • Shoulders should be straight and downward, neither hunched forward, nor thrust backward. 
  • Elbows should be slightly bent with hands gracefully at your sides, not on hips.  If hands are brought together, they should be held at waist level, not folded at the pelvic girdle.  
  • Knees close together.
  • Feet should be positioned with one slightly in front of the other, with the heel of the front foot at the arch of the back foot.  
 "...that our daughters may stand like graceful pillars polished to adorn a palace."
Psalm 144:12


  1. I can't stand that 'hand on hip', 'sassy' pose so many girls are showing in photographs. Why their mama's think it's cute I'll never know. And they do this every. single. time. I'm with you, let's get back to basics, and gentility.

    1. Thank you, Tammy. You're quite right ~ the way young people stand is a big reflection upon their mothers. If I had tried to stand with a hand on a jutted hip, my dear mama would have had a few words to say about "standing like a streetwalker."

  2. What a lovely photo!

    I just took a peek at your blog. I like it! Can't wait to read more in the coming weeks. When I was a child my parents told me that I may be rich or poor in my life but manners are free. And that no matter what happened to me materially, no one could ever take from me my dignity and manners. That made such an impact on me as a child!

    (And I just read your 'chewing gum' post and laughed. My father loathes gum, for men and women, for this very reason...but I had no idea gum existed back in the 19th century! You learn something new every day. :))

    1. Polly, I loved reading your comments and then was delighted to realize you are Polly from "The Joyful House". How wonderful to connect with you.

      I believe I would very much like your father. :)

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