Thursday, March 17, 2016

Handling Unwanted Questions

Thoughtful reader AHHa recently asked for help in answering questions that make her uncomfortable.

Thank you, AHHa, for an excellent question.  A lady's code does not require her to answer every question she is asked.  Some questions are better left unanswered.  So when the occasion arises, a lady doesn't feel compelled to give information when she'd rather not. Instead, she preserves her personal boundaries without being disagreeable. She might smile and say good-naturedly, "Oh, I'm afraid that's top-secret information..." or simply, "I really couldn't say."  No explanation or apology is owed for not answering the question.  A simple response, said in a pleasant, but confident way is enough.

Photo:  Gitta Schilling with Hat by Laroche,  photographed by Regina Relang