Thursday, February 16, 2017

Noting Changes in Another's Personal Appearance

When a lady notices a difference in another's physical appearance, such as a change in hairstyle, hair color, or weight, she does not mention it specifically, unless the two enjoy an intimate friendship. 

Remarks or questions on such changes are too personal in nature for someone other than a close friend to bring up.  This rule includes apparently innocent inquiries such as, "Did you color your hair?" (which may put the other person in the position of discussing a subject she'd rather not), and “Have you lost weight?” (which can leave the subtle impression that the person needed to).

Instead, when a lady notices a particular change in the appearance of a person who is not a very close friend, she compliments only in general terms, such as, “You look lovely!” 

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