A lady does not gossip, nor listen when others do. If a person begins to gossip in her presence about Mary (for example), a lady might say, "I'm sorry to interrupt, but isn't that Mary's story to tell?" or pleasantly suggest, "Let's wait for Mary to tell us about that if she wants to."
Busybodies often try to glean information about a person from that person's close friends or relatives. When a lady is approached with prying questions about friends or family, she might reply, "I really couldn't say, but I'll be happy to tell him (or her) that you asked!"
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