Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Offering Sympathy

Rejoice with those who rejoice;
mourn with those who mourn.
Romans 12:15

 When a lady offers sympathy to those who are grieving the death of a loved one:

  • Her message is SIMPLE.  She makes no attempt at flowery speech.    
  • Her manner is SINCERE.  Her tone is heartfelt and genuine, not hurried or perfunctory.
  • Her mode is PERSONAL.  She mentions the deceased by name and recalls a brief, pleasant memory of him or her when possible.  
  • Her method is PRIVATE.  She extends sympathy in person, by telephone or by handwritten note.  
A Sample Note of Condolence:

Dear Anne,

I was very saddened to hear of your dear grandmother Nora's death.  I still remember the tender kindness she showed me that weekend we stayed in her home during our days at Agnes Scott, the special care she took to make me feel welcome ... and the three pounds I gained from her famous peach dumplings!  Nora was a lovely woman, and I see so much of her wonderful spirit in you.  I know you will miss her terribly.

With loving sympathy,

Guidelines Regarding Social Media:

  • A lady may offer condolences by way of social media or text only when a family member of the deceased has chosen to announce their loved one's death through that channel.
  • A lady never writes "Sorry for your loss", which appears rushed and much less sincere than "I am very sorry for your loss."  For the same reason, she never uses texting abbreviations when conveying sympathy, such as, "SRY 4 UR loss."
  • Under no circumstances does a lady ask for more information than what has been given concerning the details of the death.
  • Under no circumstances does a lady interject her own experiences of grief into the conversation, detracting focus from the original news.
  • A lady never takes it upon herself to spread news of a person's death by posting it on social media.  Likewise, when she happens to be privy to detailed information concerning a death, she keeps it private.

Photo: found on Pinterest

Sunday, February 26, 2017

Driving Like a Lady

Traits of a Woman Lady Driver:
  • She signals her turns and lane changes
  • She stops at a distance which allows her to see the rear wheels of the car in front of her on the road
  • She paces her speed to make allowance for cars needing to merge
  • She waves her thanks to others who allow her to merge
  • She moves to the right lane to yield to faster-moving traffic
  • She doesn't follow too closely
  • She doesn't multitask behind the wheel
  • She keeps the volume of her audio system low enough to be able to hear sirens
  • She observes approaching traffic lights and paces her speed to avoid sudden braking
  • When she clearly observes an accident she phones the police to offer witness testimony if needed
Photo:  La Marais by Justin Chung Photography, found on Pinterest